Literally gay couples get asked all the time who is "wearing the pants" aka the man, is it that hard to grasp that nonbinary people could face similar questions? Queerness doesn't stop people from shoving you into heteronormative roles.

@ARoyalRuby i feel like people are seeing "heteronormative" as meaning "literally heterosexual", but even a relationship between a man & a woman could be breaking heteronormativity. heteronormative is a very specific societal pressure to fit into given roles