They told us to be kind. But what they really meant was: be quiet. They told us to be helpful. But what they meant was: stay small, ask for nothing, keep giving until it hurts. That is not femininity. That's just obedience being disguised as some sort of virtue. The untraining begins when you stop confusing your own discomfort with real danger. When you stop apologizing for your no. When you stop managing everyone else’s reactions and emotions like it’s somehow your job. A Bene Gesserit woman in training does not flinch at her own boundaries. She holds them with certainty. She no longer breaks herself for others under the title of “maturity.” She no longer acts soft just for permission to exist. Practice: Think on this- What “good” behavior are you still performing out of fear? Where are you still seeking approval that costs you your own truth and integrity? Choose a place today where you stop. You don’t owe your peace to anyone. Don't confuse control with love. Stop being agreeable.