I got her pregnant at 23 while I was in Uni finals. My life has come to an end I thoughtšā¦ It was just once, I thoughtā¦, should this even get her pregnant ? I thought furtherā¦.š¤¦š½ Few weeks down the line, we contemplated on getting the baby out, but Imade seemed scared. While she couldnāt keep it together anymore, her mum found out and they headed to my folksā place after she told them about our one-time coitusš£. Imade loved me so much she told me the day they were gonna come around, hence I had enough time to plan to Run away from home, after much pressures from my momma, I returned home after 1 week. when I returned, my dad cut me out and gave me the beating of my life while my mother begged, ā ā¦.it was just onceā¦ā I kept yellingā¦. They made plans for a meeting where Iād be present and Imadeās family would; to settle out the differences and get a resolution. After much back and forth, I accepted the baby and my Dad insisted I was gonna work to foot all the pregnancy bills while Imade moves in with us and he feeds her. It got crazier as the months drew closer; Imade being younger, had a lot of trouble coping with the pregnancy reactions and cravings, it got crazier cos I had to take paltry jobs to keep up with her while momma supported , lowkey cos she was happy she was gonna have a grandchild. While I struggled to make ends meet over the months, I kept being in talks with My cousin, Max, who was a UIUX designer, he supported me monthly but stopped when my Dad found out and warned him not to send me a penny cos he needs me to work my A** out and regret my actions. Secretly, Max still kept helping but he insisted I get to learn UIUX Design. I had a laptop I used for my school project and hence he sent me materials encompassing UIUX design, HTML & CSS to study. With a lotta determination and my resolution to wanna give Imade and my unborn kid a good life I kept burning the midnight candle everytime I got back from my paltry work. In the midst of caring for Imade at certain midnights, I studied squarely for the space of months, when my skills got Better? Max hence took me on to work on few of his projects while he paid me few funds monthly and encouraged I keep applying to job roles while I kept at learning & doing his projects. On a lonely night, while my parents went on their usual vigils, Imade yelled from her sleep while I worked and applied for roles, āā¦.David, the babyās gonna fly outā¦ā she yelled and cried, my emotional self couldnāt hold my tears as she cried , I cried too while she groaned in labour. Luckily , the clinic she had her antenatal care was few blocks away, right away, i had to order a taxi to get us there. While at the clinic and kept my hopes up , my phone beeped and it was a Mail from a firm I applied to few weeks back , they sent me an offer letter for a remote entry level role and while I boxed my joy cos of my babyās delivery , the nurse walked up to me bearing news Imade put to bed and Iāve got a baby boy. Tears rolled outta my eyes as I ran into the child care room to see Imade and my newborn. Long story short, named my kid āItunu; peace of mindā , got along with imade, kept up with my new role and my life took a new a new turn. I improved on my skills better. Itās two years and some months down the line, got promoted at work ,Iāve got mobile, got a place of Mine , got engaged to the loml while she finishes her studies. Grateful to max and God for Making me get into tech, this not only transformed my life , it gave it a meaning. Canāt imagine what itād have become if I never had to learn. I was down with mistakes , regrets and anguish but I made it out . My name is David Oghenetega and I made it out irrespectiveš You can too š·
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@DevTobs Dear @DevTobs From the scholarship you gave to me study data analytics at @VephlaUni it wasn't easy but I come back here to say thank you boss i did it. You have given me an edge in this life. I am grateful to you boss
@DevTobs 1st step. Give woman belle.
@DevTobs NOT READING ALL THAT , YET I AM HAPPY FOR YOU.
@DevTobs Bottom line: to make it in life, give her belle first. Thanks for the so-long-detailed inspirational story of Mariama Ba jnr.
@DevTobs He said he kept yelling it was just once šš¹
@DevTobs You no quick talk sey na at 23 I suppose give person belle in order to blow. And I don pass 23 like this
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@DevTobs This made me cry so much at 5am in the morning, cause I got pregnant at 23 and Iām sitting here heart breaking and 4 months pregnant wondering why the person that got me pregnant felt breaking up with me during this trying times was the best thing to do, Itās so lonely God ššš
@DevTobs Anyday anytime, your story telling skill must be top notch if you intend to sell anything
@DevTobs I really wanna learn this UX/UI. I have good laptop, steady light, unlimited Wi-Fi and time. Where do I start from. I wanna learn something new and not waste this free period of my life. It's never gonna be this free all the time.
@DevTobs I sha dey wonder say āwhy I never make amā So, na because say I never give person belle š¤
@DevTobs I'm to resume school tomorrow as a mathematics student, being going through a lot financially lately, I'm going to learn Tech, I'll need guidance boss, I love Data analysis, I'm never going into fraud. This stage will really pass and I'll come out stronger. This post was timely
@DevTobs Make I first go give one girl Belle
@DevTobs Lesson i learnt here: An uncomfortable situation would force you to take actions that leads to a successful life You have to be uncomfortable to be comfortable, Steve Harvey said. You would probably not be where you're now if that incident had not occurred. Happy for you boss
@DevTobs A story like this is all I need right now I am getting frustrated in my tech learning as a result of no power supply in my areaš©. Sometimes I don't know whether to cry š or just abandon everything.
@DevTobs This is so emotional. Using personal experience is ginger others has always and would always be a sure fire. When are you writing a story about your tech journey now. You started with UI/UX, how did you get to software engineering sir. You were in finals , did get to do NYSC ?
@DevTobs It was just once šš I am so glad you came out on top of those challenges. Your story is so inspiring š
@DevTobs @DemiSKILLZ Inspiring. Thanks for sharing š
@DevTobs Thanks boss , so all thatās left is to get someone pregnant ? Anyone in the CS ready ?
@DevTobs This story inspires me so much, and I promise not to give up. I have lots of reasons very similar to yours not to give up. And I must not. Thank you for sharing this. I hope I share mine too one day.
@DevTobs This is a big one. My keytake away: Despite your mistakes, don't give up on yourself, and keep learning.
@DevTobs The outcome of good family relative like your cousin is rare. I'm impressed with his support
@DevTobs Inspiring! Thank God for Max as well. Cheers to greater heights from here on! šš„
@DevTobs Inspiring story, glad that you guys kept the baby. What has happened is that pressure has brought the best at out you, and so much was achieved in such a short time. A things can always work together for good, the situation was a blessing in disguise, and a mistake to a Miracle
@DevTobs Am happy your dad made u work .he made u realise the role u ought to play but anyway the ending only matters not the beginning
@DevTobs Congratulations, a true inspiration to never give up š
@DevTobs I know someone going through an exact situation.. I need to share him this. The age, the final year, everything is just accurate. This will inspire him I know