I will keep repeating over and over to not beat yourself up about being stuck on a person. And to not let anyone shame you for being in that emotional space, because it is one of the most natural, human, and common experiences people go through. I work with clients every single day, and the main theme of so many sessions is this…
Still being stuck, still loving someone, still missing them, still not being over it, even when they feel that person has long since moved on. People carry this weight quietly because they think it makes them weak, or pathetic, or behind, but it doesn’t. It’s very normal and very common.
@ZorayaBlack_ its part of being human to felt this way, just take it slow no one is rushing in life
@ZorayaBlack_ You’re right, it’s such a normal part of being human and no one should feel bad for where they’re at emotionally.
@ZorayaBlack_ This is real 🤍
@ZorayaBlack_ I agree with this, but we also need to address the lack of self-love that keeps many people stuck in places where they aren’t loved. It’s natural to feel attached to someone, but it’s not okay to remain there when they’re not making any effort in return, which, most times,
@ZorayaBlack_ Is it okay to always let this person know that you miss them?
@ZorayaBlack_ That particular time in my life felt like the greatest betrayal to myself. I had no intentions of ever being with this person but my heart just wouldn't stop loving them. It s*cked.
@ZorayaBlack_ It’s because these people made an impact on us or our lives. Either negatively or positively. That impact sometimes stays with us forever. It’s wild how that happens but it’s so strong!
@ZorayaBlack_ Can I express how i've been abused in this relationship but im still holding on
@ZorayaBlack_ Much of the hurt comes from the fantasy of what might have been playing over and over in your mind.
@ZorayaBlack_ Thank you 😔 I really needed to read this I’m struggling so bad I’ve never been hurt like this like this is a totally different level and I’ve been saying all of these things mentioned about myself (just today too)😢
@ZorayaBlack_ I keep your picture Upon the wall It hides a nasty stain that's lying there So don't you ask me To give it back I know you know it doesn't mean that much to me I'm not in love So don't forget it It's just a silly phase I'm going through the stain on the wall she’s hiding.
@ZorayaBlack_ It becomes easier to let go when you finally reach that place of acceptance 🤍 telling yourself it’s okay to still feel these things
@ZorayaBlack_ I think of it this way- to be human is to feel, the good, the bad, the ugly, for what is life without these things
@ZorayaBlack_ i feel like the more we beat ourselves up for being stuck in a place is the longer it’s going to take to “get over it”. You’re trying to force yourself to be somewhere you’re not mentally so that means tucking away what hurts/feels good bc of it meaning no moving forward
@ZorayaBlack_ Exactly why I don’t be mad at my friends for not leaving their man alone. Everyone has different attachment/detachment styles. I just listen and support because we’ve all been there
@ZorayaBlack_ That's why I dislike it when people say, "Don't cry over a boy, " "You can't be crying over a boy" because you need to cry, to let it out in order to move on and heal. you can not be habouring hurt of past relationships into new ones. it becomes a never-ending cycle of unhealthy.
@ZorayaBlack_ Wow thank you soo much for this thread,this made me feel good.
@ZorayaBlack_ I needed to hear this. People hear “3 years…” and just start to tell me why or how I should date. That it’s “time” for me to move on. I don’t feel stuck but also don’t feel the need to move forward & explore someone else, yet. Just gives me more time to focus on healing tbh.
@ZorayaBlack_ It’s been 3 years I still am recovering the heart break. The relationship was the most rawest experiences I’ve had in my life. I let this person see me naked spiritually & emotionally, vice versa we met the most vulnerable parts of ourselves. To realize we’re wounded & can’t stay
@ZorayaBlack_ This is so validating I've haven't been able to move on from an ONLINE situationship for years and I've been stressing out about how I'm gonna address that to my therapist, it's just so embarrassing I'm 25 I feel like I should be in a completely different stage in life altogether
@ZorayaBlack_ This was beautifully explained, thanks for sharing.
@ZorayaBlack_ It’s worse when 2 people are connected spiritually so deep that you still dream about them and can feel their pain…. Been apart for 8 years 🤷🏾♀️😩
Why was the blood of Jesus required? Why was Jesus the ultimate sacrifice? I understand that He died for our sins, He was God’s son, but why was it so significant that it was a human that died--that it had to be Jesus that died? GodSaidManSaid—it’s free!