The best strategy I've found to lower my stress is surprisingly simple: I focus on improving my partner’s happiness. For years, I thought stress was my problem to deal with alone. I meditated, exercised, and even journaled daily. Then I read a study from UC Davis that explained how cortisol levels (aka stress hormones) drop when your partner feels positive emotions. So I focused on bringing more happiness and connection into our relationship. It sounds almost too simple, but it’s real. Here’s the catch: when your connection with your partner is weak, their stress becomes your stress—and it can hit hard. Chronic stress from a disconnected relationship isn’t just emotionally taxing—it impacts your sleep, weakens your immunity, and even affects your ability to focus and function at your best. That’s why @hulloitskai and I built a fun and simple tool that couples can use to rebuild their connection. It isn’t therapy. Rather, it’s a practical way to navigate the challenges that come with love and partnership - together.
