I was writing alone at a bar and this guy comes up to me, stops at a respectful distance, and says, "just wanted to check on a scale of 1-10 how open you are to talking to a drunk stranger? I'm waiting for friends, but I can totally just leave you alone." A+, immaculate vibes
We had a fun chat, his friends joined us, people are great, I love not being in lockdown anymore
@astroblob Before the pandemic, one of my favorite things to do was either writing or editing videos at local cafes) restaurants. Sometimes, curious onlookers would ask what I'm working on and they make the best sounding boards for ideas.
@astroblob So much better than āwhy arenāt you smiling? Youād look so much better if you smiledā¦ā
@astroblob Curious what number on a scale of 1-10 is a go for him
@astroblob I was sitting with friends at a bar in St Thomas & this guy came up & said, āI know Iāma sailor & we have a bad reputation but could I Sit with u?ā So I said if youāre not obnoxious you can sit, & he said āif itām obnoxious you can ask me to leave & I will.ā Married him.
@astroblob I wish more men would do this even when they aren't drunk "how comfortable are you having a conversation with a stranger? I'd be happy to leave you alone" because dudes be talking to me in public all the time and I hate giving fake one word responses until they leave me alone
@astroblob I once stood at a bus stop and two people started hardcore arguing about religion. Guy next to me turns around and is like "so what do you think should we just talk to each other so they don't get us involved?" Talked to him for the entire waiting time plus bus ride.
@astroblob Had a very similar experience on a train once: "Excuse me, you look interesting, would you be open to conversation? It's OK to say no, you look like you might be busy." I _was_ busy, but his opening gambit convinced me to make room in my schedule for chat. It was nice!
@astroblob Once a guy who was staggering around drunk saw me walking to yoga at like 5.30am and said 'hi, fancy a bit of fun?' And I said no thanks and he said 'OK worth a try' and it was so genuinely refreshing that he just left it at that that I felt a rush of gratitude to him. So rare.
@astroblob Had a non-drunk guy approach me one time at Starbucks. āMind some conversation, or would you prefer your privacy?ā Was a very enjoyable 15 mins, much better than staring at my phone. I often think of him when I see someone eating alone but havenāt had the courage.
@astroblob Wow! What an awesome interaction. And how considerate of him. I love that he was intoxicated but still had the presence of mind to keep his distance and ask if you felt comfortable ššš
@astroblob This thread should be printed on a page and distributed to young men between ages of 12 and 30. Annually. Like an obnoxiousness vaccine.
@astroblob Imagining a world where everyone is this thoughtful and respectful of each other's personal space š
@astroblob That is some hellof good "giving people space to say no" behaviour.
@astroblob @kingduncan42 This is great for a bunch of reasons.
@astroblob Sounds like he had intelligent conversation to offer, considering how respectful (and articulate while drunk haha) he was x
@astroblob Had a guy at a coffee shop ask me what I was reading. I told him, and he thanked me and went away! Next time I saw him we stayed after close talking for hours. I love talking to strangers, and it was nice to have a dude not instantly yeet himself out of consideration.
@astroblob This is what happens when men think of women as people.
@astroblob I think men could get a lot further in dating outside of internet dating apps if they approached someone and ask their consent! Well done to that dudešš
@astroblob I've taken to just very straightforwardly asking people, when there's been some flirting I'm just like "hey so I think you're super hot and I'd love to kiss you, but no pressure if you're not into that, I'm also happy to just keep talking!"
@astroblob I was once sitting in my car waiting to do some UberEats deliveries and a man eating in his car came over and gently knocked on the hood of my car, stood about 6 feet away from my window, and said ājust doing a welfare checkā because I was looking sad
@astroblob At some point we have to stop blaming everything on parents and admit that some people are just bad. Yes, we can blame parents to some degree, but at some point you are an adult, its your job to better yourself, as no parent no matter how hard they try can bring a perfect child.
@astroblob A couple of months pre-COVID, I was on travel and found myself (alone) at a karaoke bar, in Silicon Valley. My turn to sing came up, and to calm the crowd of my "creepy, nerdy old-guy" vibes, i lied and said that a blind date had stood me up. #TooManyFreeDrinksAfterwards
@astroblob Please tell me which bar is it. I might go there as well. I need someone to come up to me and talk to me respectably like this one.
@astroblob @ososalsosal I couldn't tell until the second tweet if this was actually taken well. Happy to hear it was all respect.
@astroblob I like⦠absolutely love this???⦠I have random men come up to me at the park when Iām sketching and theyāre absolutely rude. I started wearing a ring on my left ring finger to get them to fuck off. Iām very single⦠lol⦠jokes on me
@astroblob So when's the next date? C'mon you can't leave us hanging like this š
@astroblob You're looking kinda lonely girl Would you like someone new to talk to Ah-yeah, alright I'm feeling kinda lonely too If you don't mind, can I sit down here beside you Ah-yeah, alright If I seem to come on too strong I hope that you will understand