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The most effective way to respond to jealousy that results in more successful relationships is the 3rd option. By expressing concerns and making themselves a better partner to fix the situation

There are 3 ways people can respond to jealousy: - Lash out in ways that are harmful (violent behavior/make their partner jealous) - Try to protect the relationship in a way that undermines it (spying on them) - Try to work it out by expressing concerns or make themselves better

People that are prone to jealousy in relationships: - People with not many other options (CLalts) - People with feelings of inadequacy - People with low self-esteem - People with insecure attachment styles - People high in neuroticism - People low in agreeableness

Some strategies for improving sexual communication are: - Knowing what you want - Insist on your right to postpone a sexual relationship (set your own pace) - Be responsible if you decide to engage in "casual sex"

This diagram shows the different types of love, with consummate love the one in the middle that is complete with intimacy, passion, and commitment

Moral commitment is a sense of moral obligation to one's partner or to one's relationship - it would be considered improper to break vows or promises

Constraint commitment is when people feel they have to continue a relationship because it would be too costly for them to leave

Personal commitment is when people want to continue a relationship because they are attracted to their partner and the relationship is satisfying

Johnson's model of commitment involves 3 different aspects of commitment which are; personal, constraint, and moral

Relationships that have equity in household tasks and childcare are important for relationship satisfaction, both partners are happier when chores are divided fairly, and couples have more time for leisure

Communal relationships are when partner's feel a special concern for others' well-being and they provide favors and support to one another without expecting repayment

Exchange relationships are when people do favors for others expecting to be repaid by receiving comparable benefits in return

A quote from Ursula K. Le Guin that shows people how important it is to work on a relationship is "Love doesn't just sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new."

25% of couples do not experience a decline in satisfaction

People want the best possible outcomes in relationships which is measured by: Outcomes = Rewards - Costs

An example of effective listening that is useful for relationships is paraphrasing which is repeating a message in your own words to give the sender a chance to agree that's what they actually meant

An example of an XYZ statement would be: "When you do X, in situation Y, I feel Z"

Effective speech involves using behavior description, I-statements, and XYZ statements

Dysfunctional speech can be detrimental to relationships. Examples of this are kitchen sinking which is addressing several topics at once, and drifting off-beam which is wandering from topic to topic so nothing is resolved

More self-disclosure results in more satisfaction. The health benefits to self-disclosure is better long-term health, better stress response, and lower cholesterol and blood pressure