Nobody talks about the angry stage of healing. The rage you feel when you realize how much and how long you were taken advantage of. The absolute disgust you feel towards those people that mislead you. It comes in waves. Sometimes you'll feel healed and then it suddenly hits you.
@feyiszn But then it’s part of the healing process.. now you know better, now you have boundaries and that’s not a bad take away from all of it
@feyiszn And you’ll never forget. The trick is to find a way to forgive.
@feyiszn That's exactly how you learn, heal & grow...
@feyiszn Of course you want to get to a place of tranquil acceptance but I believe this stage is necessary and leaning into it (within reason) can help motivate the changes you need to make to heal further
@feyiszn Then you take responsibility for your role in it and up your standards…
@feyiszn Heal, Anger, Growth, very necessary
@feyiszn if the universe didn’t make you uncomfortable, you wouldn’t have moved🌀 the pain after realizing is the biggest sign of growth, now you can recognize energy you don’t want to deal with n stand in that truth
@feyiszn It's natural to feel these emotions 😕
@feyiszn It's true, the anger can be overwhelming. It's part of the healing process, and it's important to acknowledge those feelings. Just know that it's okay to feel that way and that you're not alone in experiencing it.
@feyiszn @Janederryo Honestly, that rage feels like a wake-up call. You start to see the truth clearly, and the anger just floods in because you can’t believe you let yourself be treated that way.
@feyiszn Sometimes it's even anger towards yourself when you realise the role you played in everything. When the victim mentality has started to clear off. Sometimes you might indeed be the victim but accountability for where you could've done better sets in
@feyiszn Healing comes from forgiving ourselves. Forgive yourself for letting them use you, for trusting them too much, for putting their interests before yours, for ignoring the red flags and for loving them in a way that they didn't deserve. Be gentle on yourself.
@feyiszn I realised it is all because of the level of trust invested in those people. It hurts a lot because the only you wish is to go back in time and rectify the mistakes of trusting them too much. Even if they apologise you won’t forget or truly forgive them.
@feyiszn @eish_jay Done hitting up people first and already haven’t heard from sum people . It’s time to take a step back
@feyiszn Sometimes you feel healed then it suddenly hits you🥹🥹🥹😭😭
@feyiszn The anger is real, and it’s valid. 🔥 It’s part of the process— Acknowledging the pain, Reclaiming your power, And setting boundaries that protect your peace. Healing isn’t linear. Feel it, release it, and keep growing.
@feyiszn Can you be completely healed cos every time someone tries getting close u remember the betrayal & broken trust so u just kinda freeze out
@feyiszn Kinda what I am going through. The fact I feel I wasted my time being with someone, when all this time I could have gotten myself where I kinda want to be. Not having to worry struggling financially if I made progress over the summer.
@feyiszn Trauma is painful going in, and painful coming out.
@feyiszn I wanted to punch the cardboard today over something that happened four five months ago. Most days I feel it left my system but some days hit hard and angers the crap out of me
@feyiszn Ugggghhhh, I felt every word of this post. You're absolutely right about the angry stage in healing.
@feyiszn It’s the weight of realizing the pain you endured and the betrayal you faced. Healing isn’t linear, and those waves of rage are part of reclaiming your power. Feel it, process it, and keep moving forward
@feyiszn I have seen one of my unhealed friend playing with the feelings of others .When I asked her why is she doing this with innocent ones?She said "I was also innocent but who cared?"People whom she broke are still waiting for her fake love! Unhealed ppl r dangerous sometimes !
@feyiszn My rage now is triggered by even a minuscule instance where I feel I'm not seen. I take responsibility for my part of allowing it, and taking action now involves speaking up and allowing emotions (like deep saddness) to move through and be seen/heard/held.
@feyiszn You try as much as possible to distract yourself, but the moment you are idol again it hits you.
@feyiszn In that phase,but I don't get angry,I just cry and cry till I'm good 😪
@feyiszn And the extra fun layer of disgust about how long you tolerated it… and it’s never too late to walk away
@feyiszn Sometimes I look back and man I wanna even bite them for taking advantage for so long, gratefully, it's a place once you come out of having anyone drag you there again is a no..you see through it
@feyiszn All while taking the blame still😭😭😭
@feyiszn In the angry stage what helped the most was writing that person a letter or recording a video. If you really want to get zesty with it just calling them nd telling them everything then hanging up works too.