James Yoder @notjamesyoder

be kind to yourself. love is the answer. Slatington, PA Joined June 2016

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Yung Pueblo @YungPueblo

3 years ago

You cannot build a deep connection with someone who is disconnected from themselves

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Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc

3 years ago

I’ve worked with many people who claim they’re fine but are actually in a functional freeze response. They tend to be high achievers and workaholics who perform well and feel numb inside. Almost as if they’re watching themselves live life, not experiencing it

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James Yoder @notjamesyoder

3 years ago

“I’ll heal so I won’t hurt you.”

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“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” ……

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Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc

3 years ago

Shame creates defensiveness.

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Control is a coping mechanism for dealing with fear and uncertainty.

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3 years ago

Longevity of marriage doesn’t mean there’s fulfillment or emotional connection.

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3 years ago

How your partner was loved as a child will show up in: how they react when hurt, how they communicate during conflict, and how they respond when you share your feelings.

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Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc

3 years ago

The opposite of trauma is connection.

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The more self aware you become, the more you understand you can’t fix anyone else’s deep rooted issues.

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3 years ago

If you show frustration or anger through: sighing, giving the silent treatment, or making sarcastic comments, you have a passive aggressive communication style. Here's why:

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Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc

3 years ago

Healing is how we re-write our own life story.

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3 years ago

Codependency: how you feel about me is how I feel about me.

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James Yoder @notjamesyoder

3 years ago

“I had to stop trying to be a great man, so I could be a good man.” favorite quote right now

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Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc

3 years ago

Emotional intimacy can be terrifying if you’ve never truly been seen.

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3 years ago

We just reached 700k🎉 As a huge thank you to this community, I’m giving away signed copies both of my books. TO ENTER: 1. Retweet this 2. Comment where you’re from Winner chosen and announced tomorrow. Open internationally. GOOD LUCK.

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James Yoder @notjamesyoder

3 years ago

Person 1: “To be honest.. I.. often feel I’ve got nothing interesting to say.. ” Person 2: “Being honest is always interesting.”

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Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc

3 years ago

A common pattern from childhood trauma is betraying ourselves to be loved or chosen as adults.

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James Yoder @notjamesyoder

3 years ago

“Slow down, no one else is on your journey.”

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Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc

3 years ago

The silent treatment is a normalized form of emotional abuse. Part of maturing is learning how to communicate, rather than using silence as punishment.