Allow your friends to distance themselves to fix their lives not everything is about you.
Allow your friends to distance themselves to fix their lives not everything is about you.
@xyingmama Sometimes people need their space. They're not cutting you off. They just need time to breathe and take care of themselves. It's not about you. Don't internalize or personalize other people’s behavior. You're only putting yourself down by projecting your insecurities onto them.
It’s tough when someone you care about starts pulling away, and your first instinct is to panic or take it personally. But sometimes, they’re just figuring out their own lives, fixing things they’ve been neglecting, or finding clarity. It’s not rejection—it’s growth. Learning to step back and respect their space is actually part of being a real friend.
@xyingmama Absolutely. And your friends not checking up on you doesn't mean they don't care. People be dealing with a lot lately.
@xyingmama @dory_1_ If he is a true soldier, he will find his way back to the front lines. If he is not, he was never your friend to begin with. He was just a liability you were carrying. Let him go.
@xyingmama Exactly everyone has seasons where they need to step back, heal, or focus on personal goals. Giving them room shows respect, builds healthier relationships, and prevents unnecessary resentment.
@xyingmama More often than not, them distancing themselves from everyone makes their lives worse. It is up to you to look out for them and to make sure they don’t hurt themselves more
@xyingmama they also have their own problems give them space and if they don't come back you just have to accept
Sometimes, people need space to heal, rebuild, or focus on themselves, and it has nothing to do with rejecting you. True friendship should recognize that distance can be necessary for growth and respecting the boundary shows maturity and care. If you value them, you’ll understand their silence isn’t abandonment. It’s survival.
@xyingmama Everyone is fighting battles we can't always see. Giving space is an act of love.
@xyingmama sometimes people need their space. they’re not cutting you off ... they just need time to fucking breathe and take care of themselves. that shit has nothing to do with you
@xyingmama Fix their lives? Half of y’all just hiding from accountability.
@xyingmama I encourage my friends to go into solitude when they’re serious about improving their lives.
@xyingmama Giving space shows real care and trust.
@xyingmama Harsh but real We are no more 18-22 We are grown up and needed that Growth for coming age We don’t have issue
@xyingmama Periodt. sometimes their 'space' is just them dodging your mess, not everything's a personal attack, sis
@xyingmama Not every distance is a loss some are paths to healing.
@xyingmama I had to understand this It’s painful But I understand
@xyingmama Not every silence is about you. Some people need distance to come back stronger.
@xyingmama when you're that friend and it's been 20 years and still nothing is fixed
@xyingmama as someone who disappeared from everyone when I was in the trenches, I see how it’s best not to take ppl’s absences personally. but that doesn’t mean they get to stay a heavy priority in your life. and if you want great friendships you need to be a great friend.
@xyingmama But you should update your friends what’s going on in your life tho
@xyingmama I’m the friend that distanced myself to fix myself and it’s been 2 years with minimal friend interactions because I have yet to be anywhere near fixed. I’d argue I’ve gotten worse.
@xyingmama And tell them. Not just gone like that. That's respect means
@xyingmama @Venus_Vibez instead they called me a weirdo for whatever reason!!!
@xyingmama I've been away from every social since March. I left whatsapp the month prior. You can't easily reach me. There are days my calling line is inactive. Nothing I do before interests me now. I need to fix my life without the thought of being outgrown. I can't let me down anymore.
@xyingmama Yeah sure that’s cute and all but as your friend, is communicating that a huge of a task to do? Is ignoring the only emotionally mature way of letting your friends know? Let’s be a-bit considerate it’s not just “not about you” you as friends owe each other transparency.
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@xyingmama We call this low maintenance friends and we love them.
@xyingmama It isn’t about me but I think communication is key if that’s the case. Imagine giving someone space and you don’t know what’s going on then they commit suicide. Then people will begin blaming themselves
@xyingmama The amount of people I have tried to convey this to who just don’t get it.