a therapist on tiktok said…. “no one notices your sadness until it turns into anger, and then you're the problem. healing is realizing you became the angry person because no one saw your sadness first”
@Iamivy05 I feel that. It’s like we’re expected to hold it all in until it bursts, and then people just focus on the outburst, not the pain that led up to it. It's exhausting to always be the 'angry one.'
@Iamivy05 That's the first decent thing I've actually ever heard on TikTok. It's full of garbage misinformation when it comes to mental health.
@Iamivy05 This hits home. I’ve been the “angry person” for so long, but deep down, I’m just sad and hurt. It’s exhausting trying to navigate a world that only sees your anger, not your pain
@Iamivy05 It’s not on other people to notice your sadness or even be there for you. If you have to rely on others for your personal source of happiness, you’re never going to be happy.
@Iamivy05 Wow… that’s deep, and maybe I’m controversial here but I’d say it your responsibility to deal with your sadness When you don’t have the needed tools it can be really hard for sure, but we gotta normalize taking responsibility for our life and putting in effort to make it better
@Iamivy05 I’m still trying to unpack this. Realizing that my anger was a manifestation of my sadness has been a game-changer. I’m learning to acknowledge and validate my emotions instead of suppressing them.
@Iamivy05 I think the therapist meant well but the emphasis on other people to me is not putting the individual in the seat of power.. it isn’t up to other people to recognize anything within us, it’s up to us to recognize it within ourselves
@Iamivy05 This hit harder than it should. We’re out here screaming for help in the loudest way possible because no one noticed the whispers. Healing... is realizing you’re not the problem. thank you💕
@Iamivy05 Ignoring sadness often leads to anger—but it’s a cycle we can break. Suppressed emotions build tension in the brain, which can eventually manifest as frustration or outbursts.
@Iamivy05 It's so important to acknowledge our feelings, Ivy. Sadness can be a quiet cry for help, and recognizing it is a vital step in healing. Remember, it's okay to express your emotions and seek support. You are never alone on your journey. Keep shining!
@Iamivy05 An enabler who doesn’t believe in accountability said …
@Iamivy05 Humans easily trigger me so when I am not feeling my best I just won’t come out the house 🤷🏻♂️
@Iamivy05 Wow this hits home real bad
@Iamivy05 This made me tear up cos why is the world like this!!!???
@Iamivy05 Is your only way of expressing sadness getting mad. Why not tell people youre sad?
@Iamivy05 That therapist is not helping with personal accountability. Doesn't sound like a good therapist.
@Iamivy05 I agree with this way of thinking. Sad people do this though
@Iamivy05 Recognize all these feelings belong to YOU and YOU need to handle them accordingly
@Iamivy05 Therapy is just blaming everyone else for your problems to make you feel good
@Iamivy05 I’d say Anger is a result of having endured events that were beyond your control and you get blamed for them anyway. Sadness is typically suffered in silence and solitude. You’re only the problem to the toxic people you refuse to tolerate.
@Iamivy05 Wow crazy how I’ve been saying this exact same thing about women who stay in failed relationships. They take on, take on, take on loads of hurt and pain and then when they turn on the man, they become the aggressor and the villain. Seen it too many times.
@Iamivy05 "I sat with my anger long enough until she told me her real name was grief." -C.S. Lewis
@Iamivy05 @BrianJackreece What if there's something we can do to never get sad? 🤔
it might be counterintuitive but anger is part of healing... after that is desire, being proud and then comes courage to be self sufficient. When you are angry you act. When you are depressed, feeling guilty or shame you are stuck and weak. healing comes with you having more power to act
@Iamivy05 Wild oversimplification. Sometimes true, likely never the entire story. More details matter
Real healing starts with controlling your reality. In this reality, there is no such thing as good or bad— there is only one thing: the power of your perspective. The only emotions you can feel are the good ones. But here’s the catch: They will only appear when you give them to your mind. It’s up to you to choose what your reality reflects.