Just apologize to your partner when you know you’re wrong. All that manipulation and getting mad at them for being upset, especially when they have a valid reason is just weird. People love to claim they’re grown until accountability is required.
@iam_thowbie Many people think they're "grown" because they're independent, have jobs, and pay bills, but emotional adulthood is proven when confronted with personal flaws.
@iam_thowbie An apology costs nothing but pride, and pride is cheap compared to losing someone who truly cares!
@iam_thowbie I experienced that n i was told i should have gotten over it in a day and it was pure gaslighting. People who do this are likely narcissists.
@iam_thowbie true accountability is rare these days
@iam_thowbie @Wondersofical That’s facts
@iam_thowbie Many people do this as a reflex. It takes emotional maturity to assess oneself and stop yourself from doing this.
@iam_thowbie @AmeenKlay88 Owning up to your mistakes is true maturity. Deflecting blame or getting angry when your partner is hurt only breaks trust. Real growth shows when you apologize sincerely and take responsibility.
@iam_thowbie It's fascinating how apologizing when you're genuinely wrong actually makes you look MORE mature, not less. The people who think admitting fault makes them weak have it completely backwards
@iam_thowbie It’s hard for people because accountability forces them to face their ego, admit imperfection, and let go of the need to “win” in the moment. Best thing to do when facing this: 1. Stay calm 2. Hold your ground 3. Don't let them seduce you into their discussion.
@iam_thowbie Grown until it’s time to say “I was wrong.” Weaponizing emotions, flipping the script, and gaslighting someone for reacting to your mess? That’s not maturity it’s emotional immaturity in designer clothes. Accountability is the real adult flex.
@iam_thowbie Apologies aren't weakness, they're proof that you value someone more than your pride. Deflecting, blaming, getting angry, it won't erase the damage, just deepen it. Growth isn't about words, it's about owning your actions. If you messed up, fix it. No excuses.
@iam_thowbie Yes! That weak ass victim mindset is draining. You bringing up how someone making you feel shouldn’t revert to arguing. People need to heal and grow up!
@iam_thowbie Saying your are sorry is powerful when backed up with action to change. Stay grounded.
@iam_thowbie This. And a real apology means actually understanding why they're hurt, not just saying sorry to end the argument. 'I am sorry you feel that way' hits different than 'I am sorry I did that thing that hurt you.'
@iam_thowbie Every now and then, someone will microwave this post.
@iam_thowbie They lose genuine people due to their manipulative behaviours.
@iam_thowbie Maturity is proven in how quickly you own your mistakes. An apology costs nothing but pride. Deflection destroys trust faster than the mistake itself. Love survives on honesty, not manipulation. Grown people take accountability without being forced.
@iam_thowbie Self accountability and communication is everything.
@iam_thowbie I forgive… if you learn to apologize properly 😉
@iam_thowbie It’s when they apologize for what they are about to do to you. That’s when you know you found a psychopath. I recommend not finding one ☝️
@iam_thowbie @veryown96 Choose Peace Set the example for reconciling and moving on in your relationships.
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