Lilé @LilevanderW

Ex model, ex corporate. Now, just me. Exploring life and love through psychology and experience. Helping you find connection and clarity ↓ lilvanderweijden.substack.com Get Newsletter → Joined February 2021

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Lilé @LilevanderW

13 minutes ago

Happy Fridays people! Semi-productive work week, but, a productive life week. Personal growth, social engagement, enjoying the present, and the near future plans. Plus, a little getaway upcoming for a reset (and a tan…)🌴

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Lilé @LilevanderW

59 minutes ago

Feeling disappointed when expectations aren’t met is natural, but blaming someone else rarely helps. Reflect, communicate, and respect differences.

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Jay Alto @theJayAlto

23 hours ago

if you want to avoid status games, remove yourself from the leaderboard. wear the same outfit every day. drive a cheap car. delete instagram. delete linkedin. cut off social climbers. don't buy branded stuff. the game becomes much less addicting when you don't know the score.

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Lilé @LilevanderW

5 hours ago

Effort shouldn't wait. Too often, people only show effort once the other person is mentally or emotionally checked out. It happens because of: 1. Complacency 2. Delayed awareness 3. Habituation 4. Distraction Be careful. True connection requires care. And care is consistent…

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Naval @naval

14 hours ago

The purest reason to make something is not to make money and not even to make the thing. It’s to have the experience of making the thing - and no one can take that from you.

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Lilé @LilevanderW

5 hours ago

The Hub just published my story: De-Romanticizing Solo Travel: What 15 Countries in 5 Years Taught Me thehubpublication.com/de-romanticizi…

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Lilé @LilevanderW

8 hours ago

It's difficult to give up something you've been pouring time, energy, or money into. Realizing you 'wasted time' can be painful. There’s a sense of loss, not just of resources, but of the story you told yourself about where you were headed. It’s easier to stay busy than to stop…

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Lilé @LilevanderW

21 hours ago

Differences in needs are opportunities. Feeling hurt is natural, but using it to foster understanding rather than blame turns challenge into growth.

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Lilé @LilevanderW

a day ago

Everyone has boundaries. Just because someone can’t meet your needs doesn’t make them wrong, and feeling upset about it doesn’t make you wrong either. Learn to navigate differences with empathy.

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Lilé @LilevanderW

a day ago

Conflict often comes from unmet needs. The key isn’t judgment, it's curiosity: Why does this hurt? What happened exactly? How can we navigate it respectfully? Listen to the other person's perspective and see through their eyes. That's how you get closer to understanding, rather…

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Lilé @LilevanderW

a day ago

"The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return." — Nat King Cole Love is life’s greatest lesson. Everything else fades, but the love you give and receive is what truly matters in the end.

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Lilé @LilevanderW

a day ago

People aren’t obligated to meet every need you have. That’s not rejection, it’s life. Respect their limits, express your own, and find harmony in understanding.

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Lilé @LilevanderW

2 days ago

Expectations clash because people are different. Feeling frustrated is normal, but instead of blaming, talk, listen, and understand. Connection grows through clarity, not criticism.

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Lilé @LilevanderW

2 days ago

I used to think getting upset when someone doesn’t meet your expectations was “wrong,” but I’ve realized it's a natural reaction to disappointment. Different people have different needs, boundaries, and capacities. Not getting what you want isn’t “wrong,” but feeling hurt or…

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Balázs Doryphoros 🌴 @PannonianMantis

3 days ago

You’re not addicted to your phone. You simply have an unfulfilling life and you try to fill the void with endless scrolling. It takes only one fulfilling day to realise this.

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Lilé @LilevanderW

2 days ago

People can know you only as much as you allow yourself to be seen, and as much as they are capable of understanding.

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Lilé @LilevanderW

2 days ago

What if “everything you ever wanted” is not a set of things to acquire? Perhaps the true pursuit is not the having, but the becoming. The evolution of the self.