Kate @spin_nightshade

"'What is there in this world that truly makes living worthwhile?' Death thought about it. CATS, he said eventually. CATS ARE NICE." -Sir Pterry Joined August 2014

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Shadows of Control @shadows_control

8 months ago

When someone sees you as their property, they justify controlling every aspect of your life. True relationships are about partnership, not ownership. #coercivecontrol #abuseawareness #emotionalabuse

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Shadows of Control @shadows_control

8 months ago

The hardest part of leaving isn’t always the abuse, but the hope that things will get better. Don’t let empty promises keep you trapped. ✨💔 #AbuseRecovery #EndTheCycle

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays

8 months ago

In your journal, try writing a thank you note to your past self for doing what you had to do to get through the suck. Even if your feelings about your past self & past decisions are mixed, acknowledge the bravery & ingenuity of past "you"-- explicitly, in words, on paper.

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Shadows of Control @shadows_control

8 months ago

Manipulators dismiss your feelings as overreactions and make you question your own reality. Trust your gut! Your intuition is your strongest ally.

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Shadows of Control @shadows_control

8 months ago

Abusers often intensify their harmful behavior when their partner starts gaining strength, independence, and social connections. 🚩

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Shadows of Control @shadows_control

8 months ago

An abuser will attack the very qualities they know you value most in yourself. ⚠️ If you are a giving and selfless person, they will call you selfish. If you are smart, they will attack your intellect. If you are fashionable, they will criticize your clothes. If you are a…

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Shadows of Control @shadows_control

9 months ago

When I was in an abusive marriage, I couldn’t see how bad things were because I was living in survival mode and I had become conditioned and accustomed to the mistreatment. #Abuse has a way of becoming our “normal” because it’s gradual, insidious, and disguised as love and care.

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Mind Essentials @Mind_Essentials

10 months ago

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

10 months ago

After surviving abuse, having a basic need met feels like a significant act of generosity. This is telling of how abuse makes your walls cave in & forces you to believe your worth is a reflection of what happened to you. Your worth has nothing to do with what they did. Nothing.

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Shadows of Control @shadows_control

10 months ago

When I was in an abusive marriage, I couldn’t see how bad things were because I was living in survival mode and I had become conditioned and accustomed to the mistreatment. Abuse has a way of becoming our “normal” because it’s gradual, insidious, and disguised as love and care.…

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

10 months ago

Never accept advice on how to heal from those who’ve harmed you.

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Shadows of Control @shadows_control

10 months ago

In an abusive relationship, you slowly learn to disappear—to tuck away your own wants, your own voice, and shape yourself around their every need. At first, you make small concessions, thinking it’s just compromise, just part of being close to someone. But gradually, bit by…

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Shadows of Control @shadows_control

10 months ago

The journey of recovery from domestic abuse involves reclaiming one’s identity and sense of self. As one survivor beautifully described: "Healing was finding my worth and knowing that I am enough. Finally knowing what I want and deserve. Doing my thing when and how I want to.…

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Why you should love animals @animals_twts

10 months ago

Nobody : Snow Leopards :

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Elie Mystal @ElieNYC

10 months ago

That's a hard lesson for me to learn, because I value harm mitigation greatly. DECREASING SUFFERING seems valuable to me, so the choice between a "lesser of two evils" is always easy for me to make. Less suffering IS PREFERABLE.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays

10 months ago

One reason complex trauma survivors are so susceptible to "was it really THAT bad, though?" mind-f*ckery is because complex trauma is pain that was so frequent & so pervasive over such a long period, that we had to adapt to it-- & we did. Though our "adaptations" came at a cost.

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Guilty as Slade? 🥥 🌴 @Jesse_bslade

10 months ago

this legit must be how katniss felt when they made her do the hunger games a second time

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☔ @Whotfismick

10 months ago

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Shadows of Control @shadows_control

10 months ago

Coercive Control: The Silent Erosion Agree and comply, keep emotions on the shelf, Be nice, be small, a shadow of yourself. For in quiet, there’s safety; in silence, there’s peace— Or so we tell ourselves, as our own voices cease. Bit by bit, we fade from our view, Dreams dim…

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Workplace Mental Health Safety & Prevention @Stopworkplacebu

10 months ago

The first rule of mental health: Learn to distinguish who deserves an explanation, who deserves only one answer, and who deserves absolutely no answer.